Not sure about the rest of you guys, but nothing bothers me more than a feeble, wimpy handshake, the kind where someone just kind of loosley grabs your fingers...I got one of those last night from a guitar player I jammed with for the first time...
 
Anyone else share this pet peeve?

Yep, I certainly share that one with you.  My internal alarm bell starts ringing when I don't get a firm hand-shake; not sure why.
 
Ellery (Lowlife)
 
(Message edited by lowlife on February 14, 2008)

yeah, it sets off an alarm for me also...I either take it to mean they dont think enough of you to give you a real handshake, or as some kind of character flaw on their part.

I understand that but I also hate those kind of... SHE'S MINE AND TO PROVE SHE IS WITH ME NOW LET ME TO SHOW  YOU THAT I CAN BREAK YOUR FLIPPING FINGERS!!!!!!: handshake that you get  when you meet the new boyfriend of an ex or close female friend lol.
 
Handshakes really say so much....
Jazzyvee

You got that right, Jazzy.  Unfortunately, I generally would LIKE to make the guy fear for his fingers, no matter whether she's mine or she's his.  Call it insecurity or overactive competitive instincts on my part.  But the ability to cripple with your right hand grip is a fringe benefit of the dark side down here on the low end... (Makes twist top bottles easier to deal with, too) (LOL)
Bill (the jerk)

Gregory,
same with me.
I hate wimpy handshakes.....
 
Oliver (Spyderman)

so I hate to think what you guys think about guys that want to give you a manly hug !!!!!

I judge that there is a difference between a manly hug and a bear hug, so for me, as long as they don't try to squeeze the life out of me, hugs are fine.
 
Ellery (Lowlife)

Personally, Im not really into the whole hug thing. I know guys that like to give other guys a friendly beer hug, nothing wrong with it, just not my thing, but than again I dont really like being touched (unless of course it is a female)....

Hi Guys.  
 
Perspective from, (dramatic pause)... 'The Other Side'.  
 
I not only hate it, but it really pisses me off when some 'bozo/maroon', who's more often than not imbibed a couple or three, congratulates me for putting on such a fine performance and you sure know how to play that bass etc, etc with a 'hearty' handshake.  My hands aren't that small and certainly not weak from playing bass for as long as I have but, it can f'ing hurt!  My hands are my profession and an enthusiastic 'great performance' or a nice to meet you 'hearty' handshake is BS from my perspective of being from, (another dramatic pause...) 'The Other Side'.  
 
This 'principle/concept' also applies to the 'bear hug'/greeting hug'.  Someone comes along and gives me a 'lift me up off the ground' hug is a real 'pisser'.  Needless to say, the nice 'greeting' hug is the much preferred approach.  
 
Now with regards to the 'macho/manly' aspect of the handshake being a judgement of character/competitive 'instinct' thingy...I can only shake my head and say 'Dudes...'  
 
Best Regards,
 
Kimberly  

Sounds like someone needs a hug...

Bob,  
 
Lol!  
 
Kimberly

From the guitarist's point of view:
I have to agree with Kimberly -
I would never vice grip anyone, nor would I want anyone to do it to my fingers, cuz it can ruin a perfectly warmed up hand and spoil the night's performance. Glocke, aside from being a man's man kind of hand shake (hot 4 U?), maybe your guitarist friend was just respecting your talented fingers and restraining so not to hurt them. But still skeevy in a Peewee Herman kind of way!  
Kris

I always felt that a wimpy handshake was that persons way of saying that they were ready and willing to be dominated by you, a non verbal invitation. Thats why it's so unnerving. The opposite goes for the ultra firm handshake. There is no excuse for either one.
 
Unless you have some sort of nerve/muscle disorder, it's quite easy to give a firm handshake, that is neither painful or submissive.
 
Peace, JBY

bumping fists is the new thing ......hands can contain too many germs/bacteria these days!